Journey to Healing: “Rejection”

Everyone in this world has encountered the enemy of “rejection.”  Rejection is the root cause for many of our character flaws such as, anger, bitterness, unforgiveness, feelings of not be loved or lovable, etc.

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Rejection originates from how we were treated as children and how we internalized the acts done to us.  For example, parents that are distant toward their children by not hugging them, not telling them they are loved, speaking negative words over them, or not participating in their life events sends signals to their children that their parents are “indifferent toward them or they don’t care; or “my parents don’t love me or I am unlovable!” However, the parents may not truly mean to be indifferent toward their children, they just don’t know how to outwardly express their love because they may not have been showed love themselves from their parents or they may have been abused.

Rejection also originates from our peers or teachers.  Children that experienced teachers talking down to them; peers teasing them, left out of activities such as parties, talked about or bullied by peers, are signs of rejection to a child. 

In both of these cases children will grow up feeling unlovable and unworthy, having a difficult time trusting others and will become distant with people.  In some cases, rejection will cause the abused one to become people-pleasers, looking for love from others, choosing people who will also abuse them, or forming bad habits.  Some children will act out in school or home just to get some attention from their parents, believing negative attention is better than none at all.

When these children become adults, they will exhibit the character flaws listed above because they missed out on the security of being loved and feeling needed.  The lack of love as a child is the number one cause for adults living a life of rejection.  They need to feel validated by their parents!  They need to know that their existence counted for something with their parents. 

Is this post about blaming our parents, other family members or our peers?  No! This post is about acknowledging why we have a wounded soul exhibiting character flaws or bad habits that we don’t particularly like.  This post is written to help us to take responsibility for our mind and actions!  This post is about healing for our wounded soul so we can be free!

The problem is that the abuser has been abused themselves.  We can only love others as we love ourselves.  If we have anger in our hearts, we will live our lives with anger and be angry with others. 

God created everyone with two wonderful gifts – the gift of love and the gift of free-will.  Unfortunately, we humans do not know how to love others without hurting each other to receive love.  Love is like a security blanket!  When we are loved without any strings attached to it, it is peace to our souls, we feel needed, we feel connected.  Genuine love is health for our soul!  Genuine love helps us to grow the way God intended for His children.

Rejection hurts but there is help; and that help is from Father God.  He knows your hurts and wants to help you. You ask, why didn’t He stop it years ago!  Good question!  The second gift God gave man is free-will. That is the ability to make decisions.  The person that hurt you had a choice to do so or not.  God will not go over anyone’s choice, otherwise we would be puppets.  The abuser chose to commit the evil act.  Today you have a choice to change your life and to stop allowing yourself to be a victim bound by the past.  You have a wonderful future ahead of you. Today, declare your freedom!

If you have a wounded soul, the answer lies in:

  • Taking control of your thought life – your mind!
  • Read Scriptures that pertain to your problem, this is healing for your soul.
  • Speak Words of life over yourself every day (scriptures).
  • Tell yourself: “I am lovable. God says I am good and I believe it.”

Scriptures to get you started:

Psalm 34:17-19The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles.  The LORD is night unto them that are of a broken heart, and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all.” 

Psalm 37:4-6 “Delight thyself also in the LORD; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart.  Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass. And He shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday.”

In your journal:

  • List scriptures to feed your wounded soul.
  • List things you can do to pamper yourself and do it.
  • List each day the goodness of God in your life.

Today & Everyday Proclaim:

  • I am deeply loved by Father God.
  • I am a lovable person and I love myself.
  • Father God will rescue me and fight my battles.

The Word of God has the power to transform and heal anyone who puts his/her trust in Father God for healing.

S.N.A.C.K. on the Word


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